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Relationships are funny, they make you smile, they make you cry, but they help you evolve and learn.
Distance is what makes a relationship even funnier because in this case, the distance could be either a curse or a blessing.
Being close to your partner for a long time could make you either grow fonder of him or it could agitate you. Although, it all relates to normal human nature and emotions, it differs from one person to another. All in all, it’s a funny business and the more you try to understand it, the harder it gets.
Feelings are not a static factor, they change, they subside, and sometimes they grow. The only factor, which is static, is you. Time results in variability of feelings and you don’t have any control over them. Some instances in life will make you believe that distance cannot be underestimated.
When you go away, sometimes you do just go away. And no matter how much you want to come back, you are just not able to.
One of the many examples would be when the one of the partners fly away to a separate place, and the other awaits him/her to come back. But after that, there’s an empty space in your life, which is not hard to fill. If the time period is temporary , it becomes easy, but if the time is not definite, it’s really hard and tiresome. One might underestimate the time frame, but that’s not a good idea. Time could be a toilsome factor, if you come to think about it. You need to put conscious efforts to maintain that love and charm of the relationship. These efforts could be waking up in the middle of the night and attending calls or even going to distance to meet your significant other. All this requires some determination and commitment.
It’s never a one sided story, it never was. And if it is a one sided story, its coming to a halt sooner or later. If both the partners don’t put in the required time and effort in this relationship, then they should be prepared for the finale. Its harder than it seems and even more harder if your determination gets shaken. And its so easy to get your determination shaken, specially with a bit of alcohol is your system. Intentionally or unintentionally, one tends to make mistakes, which can take you on a guilt trip later.
On the other hand, when you are with your partner and spending way too much time with him/her, there comes a moment when you just want to break the shackles and go away for a while. There is nothing wrong in this, since, a normal human needs a change now and then. But, what if the person doesn’t feel the same after the break. What if, that break was all that was required? Sounds scary right? A break or even a little distance might prove to be a curse.
Clarity of thought and your will power needs to be in place to make sure you don’t dwindle from the path.
In most cases, Relationships don’t work with distance. They require trust, dedication, determination and some extra efforts, every now and then to make it work. But there has to be a plan, to get back to where you belong, in your happy space. Distance makes it hard, but you can make it easy, by believing in your self and your relationship.